When a young child’s father leaves, in spite of the time on the weekends he may spend with his kids, the roaring silence of Dad’s missing presence during the week causes a child to think “did Dad leave because I didn’t mean anything to him? … Surely he wouldn’t have left if he loved me… I must have done something wrong… I must not be worth much.”
Of course for those who have been abused verbally, physically by their Dad, having a passive father would have been a blessing. The message of “you’re a piece of worthless junk that no one could love” is violently pounded into them until this is the (distorted) truth of their life. Receiving love and affection is almost impossible, and hopelessness, despair and rage set in. How many people respond to having a low sense of worth is to find out how they can gain value and significance in the world. Is it by becoming rich and powerful; is it by having things? Or maybe it is an achievement or winning at something, but it all leads to the performance trap, a lie that says enough success will bring contentment and fulfilment. Usually, they fear failure because if they fail it will threaten their significance. They avoid risk and seek approval of others to feel good about me.

Friend, you are loved unconditionally by your Father in heaven regardless of your performance or your “net worth”. As we look into the face of Father God, we see reflected toward us love acceptance and belonging. Its a safe, loved, good feeling and we are conscious of Gods acceptance. As we behold God s glory, His significance, His value and worth, and through our relationship to Him as dear children, we recognize our true sense of significance and value.